This is everything.
I’m in love with you because I’m not obsessed with you. This is a distinction worth noting, one that took me a long time to learn. In the past, I would confuse obsession with love. If I felt things intensely and regarded my lover as a mentor, it would mean that I was in head over heels. They were all the way up there and I was down here, studying them like a dutiful pupil, and that dynamic felt comfortable to me. That wasn’t real love though. Real love isn’t rife with inequities. I’m in love with you because you’re my equal. We’re on the same page. It’s stable, unlike obsession, which is inherently erratic. — Ryan O’Connell, Thought Catalog
Goal for the Week: February 10
Listen more than I speak.
My Chinese Horoscope — The Earth Dragon
THE EARTH DRAGON 1928 AND 1988
Earth Dragons make great managers because they are practical, levelheaded and demonstrate a knack for organizing. They still have the need to dictate and be admired, but they are affable, congenial and supportive. Compared to other Dragons, Earth Dragons are less likely to breathe fire at the least irritation. They will work diligently to complete their life goals. The Earth element adds a greater portion of self-control to the Dragon’s personality and usually the Earth Dragon is deserving of the respect he or she desires. These Dragons take their life and romantic responsibilities quite seriously.
AT HOME WITH THE DRAGON
Not the most domesticated of the Animal signs, Dragons and may be more content out and about rather than at home. Nevertheless, with their imagination and artistic sense, they can enjoy decorating their home or anywhere else where their extravagance can be expressed.. A Dragon’s home should be as large and majestic as his personality, providing space for the fiery temperament or emotional eruptions that accompany their character.
THE DRAGON AT WORK
The Dragon’s originality is the most impressive and outstanding of all his characteristics. The Dragon is quite imaginative and always able to see new paths where others may run into brick walls. Dragons are very adaptable and are fit for various occupations, especially if those occupations allow him to take the limelight. In any of these occupational situations, the Dragons will take a radical approach. Dragons work hard, but would rather give orders than receive them. They should avoid jobs that encompass too much routine, and should move toward jobs in which their self-reliance can be an asset.
DRAGONS MAKE EXCELLENT:
- Computer analysts
- PR People
- Advertising agents
- Officers in the armed forces
FRIENDS & ENEMIES:
Dragons are usually popular people, but because of their personalities, they seem to gather as much criticism as they do esteem. Due to their tumultuous temperaments, Dragons are not the most sensitive friends to those in need of a shoulder to cry on. Those who truly know the Dragon know he is a loving soul who will become your best ally in times of need. Once the dynamic Dragon has given his friendship, he will not let his friends down and will never falter in his allegiance to his companions. To a Dragon, a friend is a friend for a lifetime. Incredibly honest, Dragons are known for sincerity and are trusting souls. Because of this honesty, Dragons don’t realize others may not demonstrate or uphold the same codes of ethics. Making the discovery that they placed their trust in someone who is dishonest makes the Dragon person quite sad, yet much more perceptive for future encounters.
Best Friends: Rats and Monkeys
Mortal Enemy: Dogs
Suitable Gifts: Tarot cards, camera, a copy of the I Ching, mirror, a family crest, mobile phone
Hobbies and Pastimes: Computer programming, public speaking, fossil hunting, astrology
Dragons Dislike: Taking orders, unnecessary bureaucracy, discounted ideas, people who don’t give 100%
When I was 22, I thought that I deserved success just because I wanted it, and not because I’d actually earned it.
I swear, Emma Straub, “On Being a Late Bloomer” (RookieMag) has described our generation perfectly.
You are single because you are single. It’s really as simple as that. You haven’t made the connection with another heart yet. You can get dolled up, dress cute, cut your hair, dye your hair, tweeze your eyebrows, put on lipstick and you may still. be. single. You can go out to a bar hoping to meet the love of your life and not find a damn one in the place attractive. And it’s going to remain that way until it’s time for you to find one. Stop hoping for it. Start living the life that you do have instead of wishing for things that you don’t have. There will come a time you’ll meet a boy and you’ll have to give up some of this single freedom you currently have. Start being more thankful. Start doing that now.”
- Amanda Crute, Thought Catalog
25 ½ BEFORE 25 ½
1. Horseback Riding
3. Tarot Card Reading/ Palm Reading/ Sorcery/ Astrology
5. Half Marathon
6. Make a Tres Leches Cake
7. Bobbing for Apples
8. Keg Stand
9. Acting Audition
10. Music Festival
11. White Water Rafting
12. Mardi Gras
13. Kiss a “Celebrity”
15. See Beyonce Perform
16. Wear a good costume in Public
17. Go on a date with Settie’s brother
18. Own a pair of Louboutins
19. Memorize all US Presidents in order
20. Go to Carowinds
21. Haunted Hay Ride
22. See a Scary Movie in Theaters
23. Wine Tasting
24. Mongolian BBQ
25. Outdoor Ice Skating
25 ½. Kiss under the mistletoe
Anything I should add or remove?
I like listing, it helps me to organize my thoughts.
Things I’m thinking about:
- The value of youth
- The power of today (as opposed to tomorrow)
- Relevant life goals
- The relationship between money and happiness
- The importance of family
- My parents’ 28 years of marriage
- The places in the world I have yet to see
- A $300 pair of Frye boots I’d love for fall
- The sadness that the end of summer brings
- Complexities of long-distance relationships
- How much I love my apartment
- Blessings and faith
- Thankfullness and greed
- That I sometimes miss having straight hair
- The things that mattered to me in middle school
- How much I’m going to miss the cable I just cancelled
- The benefits of waking up early versus sleeping in
- The reasons I need to take my car to the shop
- The possibilities of why the succulents in my terrarium are dying
- An adirondack chair in my parents garage I want to paint neon green
- Possible casting for the 50 Shades of Grey movie
- What it would be like if life were like “In Time”
- How it must feel to have a hair and makeup crew for everyday life
- The wonderful feeling of 8+ hours of sleep
The present hysteria is not a necessary or inevitable condition of life; it’s something we’ve chosen, if only by our acquiescence to it. Not long ago I Skyped with a friend who was driven out of the city by high rent and now has an artist’s residency in a small town in the south of France. She described herself as happy and relaxed for the first time in years. She still gets her work done, but it doesn’t consume her entire day and brain. She says it feels like college — she has a big circle of friends who all go out to the cafe together every night. She has a boyfriend again. (She once ruefully summarized dating in New York: “Everyone’s too busy and everyone thinks they can do better.”) What she had mistakenly assumed was her personality — driven, cranky, anxious and sad — turned out to be a deformative effect of her environment. It’s not as if any of us wants to live like this, any more than any one person wants to be part of a traffic jam or stadium trampling or the hierarchy of cruelty in high school — it’s something we collectively force one another to do.”
- Tim Kreider, The Opinion Pages (NY Times)
Source: The New York Times